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Confessions of a Trauma Therapist

To her surprise, dismay, and eventually relief,  Mary Armstrong, a former therapist with over thirty years of experience helping people heal from childhood trauma, uncovered her own history of child sexual abuse at the hands of her grandfather and father. As she tells her harrowing but heroic tale, she casts light as never before on the issue of repressed memories and the invisible wounds left by childhood trauma.

Confessions of a Trauma Therapist: A Memoir of Healing and Transformation is my story of uncovering my own history of child sexual abuse in my 40s. By this time in my life I was a social work psychotherapist in private practice helping others who suffered the invisible wounds of childhood trauma.

In my 70s I decided to tell my story so that others who have suffered childhood trauma could see their pain reflected in my story of struggle and success.

Aging and Staying in Charge of Your Life: A Memoir

Join me in my older woman’s journey through aging, downsizing, de-cluttering and, as is typical of my age group, moving to a new city in order to be close to our offspring. Come watch as I carve my own path to happiness and write my newest memoir, Aging and Staying in Charge of Your Life.

At the age of 78, I have found an inner freedom that eluded me in my marriage for decades. My message to women? It’s never too late to take your own power.



  1. Jan Winhall says:

    While this book is one of the most painful pieces of writing that I have encountered it is worth every moment.It shatters any attempt at societal dissociation re child sexual abuse. As the author takes us into her vulnerable world and shares the REAl story of desperation and fog she forces us to imagine…to touch into her world of horror.If we can bear to stay with her we begin to see how she learns to make meaning of her life. From her yoga teacher she learns to find her inner core through breathe,to ground herself in a way that was robbed from her by her abusers.
    In her wisdom she realizes that she wants to grow past her need for a guru and learn a way to lead from within.
    She finds this way in discovering Focusing.
    For survivors of abuse this book is a gift. For therapists this book is essential reading. We learn how the author weaves in theory with the practice in a bodily informed way.
    We can only show the deepest respect for such an honest and vulnerable sharing. Meant to inspire ….and that it does.

  2. Hi Mary,
    I came across your blog and just wanted to say that I so appreciate your guts for doing what you’re doing! For the book, the therapy, and the blog.

    • And I appreciate the fact that you took the time to let me know that you support my work. Thanks so much. The blog and the work in general are very important to me. It’s only when someone tells me they help, that I actually get feedback. Thanks again, Guy.

  3. Joan bjornsgaard says:

    I so need to read your story. I am a 62 year old psychotherapist who specializes in trauma work with children and adolescents. My own memories began bubbling up four months ago and I work with a wonderful therapist. Sometimes working with my patients does trigger me as I have PTSD symptoms. I have told my partner but no one else. I did share my memories with a patient struggling to disclose his own. Sometimes 8 struggle with some of the recovery work, i.e. Helping patients write victim letters to their abusers. This process is horrid but I believe in the process and know I will have freedoms, joy and light at the other side of it. How do I get the book?

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