Worst Time In My Life


If you regularly read my blogs, you know I haven’t posted for a long time.  That’s because the first half of 2018 has probably been the hardest and worst time in my life. Returning from Arizona, where I intended to spend a glorious winter, I could barely breathe. I was limp, depressed and helplessly weak. In retrospect, it’s hard to know how much of my weakened state was purely physical (Is there such a thing?) – and how much was emotional.

My son and daughter-in-law took me in and looked after me until I moved to – yikes! – a retirement home. I don’t know how long I’ll stay here. I’ll probably move out to an apartment to live on my own before too long. Meanwhile Sammy and I have a charming suite right on Lake Ontario, in the very centre of Kingston’s busy downtown.

Sammy really enjoys life among these old people with their ever-present walkers. We even have a fenced-in grassy area just outside our bedroom window.  Sammy hops through the window to relieve himself or to bark at passersby.  No longer do I need to take him outside last thing at night and first thing in the morning. (Every cloud has a silver lining?)

Meanwhile as I recover my health, I continue to look for reliable information on healthy aging. My latest discovery is a remarkable book by New York Times bestselling author John Medina. It’s called Brain Rules For Aging Well: 10 Principles for Staying Vital, Happy, and Sharp.  Dr. Medina is a scientist, a molecular biologist. His findings are well researched and his book is very readable.

Not too long from now, in my next posting, , I’ll tell you more about what Medina can teach us.


  1. Sheila Simmons says:

    True, we have not heard from you for awhile. I was worried about you, healthwise and otherwise. I also have been reading a lot. The Healing Self by Deepak Chopra M.D. and Rudolph E. Tanzi, Ph.D. Important word is SELF. A very worthwhile read.
    As we age and mobility is a problem – thistles in garden etc etc. – we have now decided to sell our property which either costs to have someone come in and do work, or we call it quits. We have to accept some limits. Moving to house in subdivision outside of Picton. Nearer to shopping, Doctor and Hospital. Also for taxis etc.
    Take care Mary and all the best to you and Sammy.

  2. Mary Armstrong says:

    Good to hear from you, Sheila. I can imagine the difficult decision-making that went into planning to sell and move from your beautiful home. Yes, we need to recognize our limits as we age. It’s a humbling experience.

  3. Barbie says:

    How about a retirement apartment complex where there are activities going on every day? I have had a difficult time imagining you with people with mobility issues. Not just yet for you?

  4. Thanks, Barbie. I’m still sorting through whatever is right for me at this time. I’m definitely getting better, but it’s slow. Here in the retirement home, at least I’m not alone – and loneliness loomed as a huge part of my distress.

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