Archive for July 18, 2012

You’ll Never NOT Have Been Abused

I often hear survivors voice these worries:

Will I ever by normal? My life has been pretty good for years now. I exercise, eat right, take good care of myself, and yet sometimes I still get depressed and feel overcome by shame. All the externals are in place. It’s my internal life that often doesn’t’ feel good. I have my memories and have accepted what happened to me. I’ve had good therapy for the old wounds. But I still don’t feel great all the time.

I understand this worry. I’ve certainly felt all of the above at times. At this stage of my life, I have a really wonderful world and most of the time I feel good about myself, who I am and what I’ve contributed to the world. The best answer I can come up with is, “You’ll never NOT have been abused.” Read more

Canadian Boy Scouts Open Records of Alleged Child Sexual Abuse


For decades the Boy Scouts of Canada (now called Scouts Canada) have hidden allegations of child sexual abuse made against their organization. Now, to their credit, they have thrown open their records. It’s all out in the open.

Why did they fail to take proper action for so many years? Clearly those in power considered the reputation of their organization more important than the lives of the children entrusted to them. Read more