You’ve probably heard of The Bucket List, that list people keep of all they want to accomplish before they die. Well, I have another list for you. This one is meant to remind you that you’re really a very fine person – even in the face of criticism and dips in your self-esteem.
It goes like this:
Think of an event in your life that you feel proud of. It can be from any stage of your life. Don’t be shy. The list is just for you. It’s private.
Once you’ve come up with an event, close your eyes and re-create that experience. Visualize all you could see at that special time. Who’s present? What do you hear and smell? Take your time. When you’re ready, check in with the centre of your body. How does your body feel about this special time?
Would there be another special time in your life that makes you feel pleased with yourself? Pay attention to this new memory in the same way. Close your eyes and recreate the moment in history
Keep going until you have a collection of times when you felt really positive about yourself.
Write a list of these occasions on a card that will fit in your pocket.
This is the card you will carry with you and pull out whenever your self-esteem is being whittled away or your inner Critic voice is telling you you’re just no good.
Now start writing them down. Make your list.
These days I’m experimenting with this exercise. I invite you to try it and I’d really like it if let me know your results.